HOW TO LEAVE THE HELPLESS STATE


When you are fully aware of your needs, it does not suggest that you would be motivated enough. There is a need for you to also access your needs. First and foremost, you need to realize that when you feel helpless or lazy, it just means that you have not been able to fulfil your needs.
It also implies that the sense of growth is not felt any longer, and you do not have any control over your environment.

It also suggests that the sense of connection which you have with others, has been severed.
One of the most essential ways of ensuring that you do not feel this way, is to start making attempts to meet your needs.

Doing this has many approaches, which includes coming to terms with the fact that there is a need for you to create a measurable goal, put yourself in a situation when it is impossible for you to win, and also receiving something on a free basis.


The following steps are quintessential in aiding you to leave the helpless state:
Border yourself with triggers: Whatever surrounds you has the capacity to affect your thought pattern and behaviour.

There are a good number of ways whereby you can motivate yourself to get into action. You can decide to fix automated emails, calendar updates and the likes, which would remind you to remain focused or go through with any specific action.

Scheme an exciting event: Another feasible way of ensuring that you leave the helpless state, is to plan an event which would leave you in the excited state. You can decide to go in a date to eat out, or probably see a movie. You can also decide to go for a long walk with anyone you deem fit.

Ponder on rejection: When you get rejected, it should not be an avenue for you to be depressed. Rather, it should be an opportunity for you to feel motivated that you can perform much better.

Celebrate yourself: One thing which you must never do, is to look down on yourself as a failure. Whenever something does not work out successfully with you, it should serve as a motivation to you that you can perform much better.

MASTERY OVER SELF- DESTRUCTIVE BEHAVIOUR

Knowledge is a weapon. However, accurate knowledge is a better weapon. It is seemingly difficult to overcome a vice where little or no knowledge about the possibility of freedom is unknown.
As a matter of fact, we all find men and women, including adolescents, doing self-destructive things, at one point or the other. Behaviour is said to be self-destructive when it is harmful or potentially harmful towards the person who engages in the behavior. Self-destructive behaviours may be deliberate, born of impulse, or developed as a habit. They are actions that negatively impact our mind or body by the life choices we make. More obvious forms of self-destructive behaviours are eating disorders, alcohol abuse, drug addictions, sex addiction, self-injury, and suicide attempts, or a host of other behaviours that feel helpful in the moment but harmful overtime.
Self-destructive behaviours are basically inexhaustible and usually occur for quite a number of reasons. The major ones include: Childhood trauma via sexual and physical abuse. As a matter of reality, it does have deep psychological effects and imbalances on such individuals. Amongst other causes include disrupted parental care. It is generally caused by loss, pain, or other trauma, often occurring early in a person’s life. Self-destructive behavior appears in many forms, including antisocial, addictive and compulsive behavior, self-injury, neediness, and irresponsibility and tends to become worse if indulged.
Nearly all forms of self-destructive behavior tend to have a negative effect on physical health. Whether it’s not eating, overeating, self-mutilation, unhealthy sexual activity or abuse of alcohol. Not only is the physical health of such individuals threatened, also is the emotional health.
The following are possible means of overcoming self-destructive behaviours
Turn toward the problem: one of the biggest problems with making life changes is that we tend to avoid thinking about the problem. Look at the problem. Acknowledge it, and then you overcome it.
Learn to believe that you can: in the beginning, you probably have doubts that you can stick to this change. If you want to change your eating, you can’t change it all at once. It’s not realistic. Pick one change, and be specific.
Find support: Ask your partner or good friend, or family to support you. If you don’t have anyone supportive around you, find a group online.
Those with self-destruct behaviours can be helped if they have someone to talk about it. If it is noticed that they frequently engage in such acts, then there is an urgent need to caution them and if possibly stop them from doing so.