Knowledge is a weapon. However, accurate knowledge is a better weapon. It is seemingly difficult to overcome a vice where little or no knowledge about the possibility of freedom is unknown.
As a matter of fact, we all find men and women, including adolescents, doing self-destructive things, at one point or the other. Behaviour is said to be self-destructive when it is harmful or potentially harmful towards the person who engages in the behavior. Self-destructive behaviours may be deliberate, born of impulse, or developed as a habit. They are actions that negatively impact our mind or body by the life choices we make. More obvious forms of self-destructive behaviours are eating disorders, alcohol abuse, drug addictions, sex addiction, self-injury, and suicide attempts, or a host of other behaviours that feel helpful in the moment but harmful overtime.
Self-destructive behaviours are basically inexhaustible and usually occur for quite a number of reasons. The major ones include: Childhood trauma via sexual and physical abuse. As a matter of reality, it does have deep psychological effects and imbalances on such individuals. Amongst other causes include disrupted parental care. It is generally caused by loss, pain, or other trauma, often occurring early in a person’s life. Self-destructive behavior appears in many forms, including antisocial, addictive and compulsive behavior, self-injury, neediness, and irresponsibility and tends to become worse if indulged.
Nearly all forms of self-destructive behavior tend to have a negative effect on physical health. Whether it’s not eating, overeating, self-mutilation, unhealthy sexual activity or abuse of alcohol. Not only is the physical health of such individuals threatened, also is the emotional health.
The following are possible means of overcoming self-destructive behaviours
Turn toward the problem: one of the biggest problems with making life changes is that we tend to avoid thinking about the problem. Look at the problem. Acknowledge it, and then you overcome it.
Learn to believe that you can: in the beginning, you probably have doubts that you can stick to this change. If you want to change your eating, you can’t change it all at once. It’s not realistic. Pick one change, and be specific.
Find support: Ask your partner or good friend, or family to support you. If you don’t have anyone supportive around you, find a group online.
Those with self-destruct behaviours can be helped if they have someone to talk about it. If it is noticed that they frequently engage in such acts, then there is an urgent need to caution them and if possibly stop them from doing so.

How to Reverse Self Destructive Behavior

end self destructionSelf destructive behavior in a person is a weighty problem to try to lift. Self destructive behaviors are frequently outward expressions of deeply rooted mental or personality disorders, such as depression, bipolar disorder or borderline personality disorder. These are serious mental problems, but with devoted efforts, they can be managed and the individual can lead a normal, meaningful life.

Setting out to reverse self destructive behaviors requires major lifestyle changes, but those who are determined can make it happen. To quit your self destructive behaviors, consider the following tactics:

  • Consider medication. Self destructive behavior is frequently a sign of a serious mental disorder or personality disorder. These can be diagnosed and managed, but medication is frequently helpful to this cause. A number of antidepressants and mood stabilizers are available to help people with disorders balance their brain chemistry and disposition.
  • Seek counseling. Professional counselors are practiced in working with people who struggle with self destructive tendencies. They are equipped to identify the underlying causes of the self destructive behavior and help the individual work on their recovery and regain the positivity in their lives. If the self destruction is substance abuse related, seek high quality substance abuse treatment.
  • Practice coping skills, healthy behaviors and positive self talk. Learning to retrain the way your mind operates is essential to ending your self destructive tendencies. A great deal of help with this will come from counseling, but it will be up to you to put the lessons you learn in counseling or self help into practice in your life.
  • Managing triggers and urges to relapse. Similarly, it will be up to you to learn to avoid things that trigger your self destructive tendencies. If substance abuse is your battle, you will need to practice sobriety by staying away from your sources of the substance or substances. If self harm is your battle, you need to urgently remove yourself from any situation that is causing you to want to harm yourself. If you tend to run from positive things because you do not feel that you deserve them, you will need to work particularly hard on feeding yourself positive self talk instead of self deprecating thoughts.

Signs of Self Destructive Behavior

self destruction signsSelf destructive behavior is deeply disturbing to witness in someone you care about. Watching someone you love harm themselves, abuse substances or sabotage their own happiness and success repeatedly is devastating and infuriating all at once. You feel powerless to stop it and emotionally distraught over how senseless your loved one’s behavior is. Self destructive behavior is often a sign of a serious mental disorder, like depression or bipolar. If you are witnessing signs of self destruction in a person you care about, you will want to encourage them to seek psychological or psychiatric evaluation. If you fear their behavior may be putting them in immediate risk, arrange for an intervention. Self destruction can result in death or permanent health problems. The most common expressions of self destruction are:

  • Substance Abuse. If you see someone you care about consistently overusing alcohol, tobacco products, prescription drugs, recreational drugs or even food in a way that is putting them at risk, you can consider them self destructive. If they are aware of the danger to their health but continue to abuse the substance, it may be time for you to intervene and encourage them to see a counselor, or even arrange a professional intervention for them.
  • Self Sabotage. A self destructive person will possess behaviors that sabotage their own well being. These behaviors can be harder to spot than something conspicuous like self mutilation or alcoholism. One has to be relatively close to the individual to pick up on these more subtle behaviors. They tend to take the appearance of ending romantic relationships that appeared promising for seemingly no reason, turning down job offers or quitting high reward jobs for seemingly no reason, or passing up other great opportunities, typically with weak reasoning.
  • Self Harm. One of the most obvious and alarming qualities a self destructive person may possess is that of self harm. This may include suicide attempts or any form of self mutilation. This typically comes with severe self destructive tendencies that commonly indicate a mental disorder or personality disorder of some sort. This is an overt self destructive behavior that can be considered an urgent cry for help.

Why do People Self Destruct?

self destructionIt can be very painful to watch someone you care about self destruct. It can also make you feel very desperate and powerless to stop the harmful behavior. Witnessing someone you love self destruct will always leave you with more questions than answers as their behavior seems like pure senselessness to you. However, you are not alone, and neither is the self destructive person. Self destruction is a common expression of a person’s mental health problems that outwardly take the shape of deliberately ruining one’s own life. Though it is entirely needless, the self destructive person is acting out in response to very real stimuli that their mental health problems thrust upon them.

If their mental health problems are accurately diagnosed, a self destructive person’s negative tendencies can be managed. This requires the person to want to manage their self destructive tendencies as many people do not grasp how badly they need to manage them. Common mental health diagnosis’ that can spawn self destructive behaviors are depression and bipolar disorder. Mood altering disorders of any kind can initiate self destructive behaviors, but particularly ones that involve depressive effects on moods. These mental problems promote despair within the individual as well as the tendency to want to throw in the towel and give up before even trying. This sense of despair and self deprecation is what leads to self destructive behaviors.

Sometimes mental health problems go undiagnosed, either because the person and their loved ones have learned how to function with them or because they simply did not know to seek a diagnosis. Self destructive behaviors will ensue just as persistently in people with undiagnosed mental disorders as those who are diagnosed, sometimes even more so. Without a diagnosis, self destructive behavior may become a way of life for the individual, putting them at greater risk of suffering the consequences of self destructive behavior. If someone in your life is showing signs of self destructive behavior in the form of substance abuse, harming themselves or simply giving up on life, their well being may depend on your encouragement to seek help. Do not stay silent. Intervene if you must.

What is Self Destructive Behavior?

self destructive behaviorSelf-destructive behavior can be very pervasive in some people and very damaging to their well-being. Self destruction is not a condition, but an effect of a wide range of conditions. Many people who are unaware of or who are not caring for a mental illness will show signs of self-destructive behavior. A person who is self-destructing is essentially being defeated by a mental problem that is overwhelming them, even if they are not consciously aware if it. A self-destructive person will lose respect from people who originally were very impressed with them and will gain a reputation for being a “quitter” among their peers.

Signs of self destruction may include overt suicidal behavior such as deliberate overdosing, or self mutilation tactics like cutting. Or, the destruction patterns may not be as overt. They may be more subtle and ongoing, such as alcohol abuse, drug abuse, food binging or smoking. They may not even be related to a substance. They could be tied up in personal behaviors and decision making, such as talking one’s self out of accepting a respectful job, inhibiting one’s self from following through on a career path or vocation, or ending a promising relationship. People act out with these behaviors because they believe, even if subconsciously, that they are destined for failure, misery or other negative outcomes. Their self-destructive behavior is reoccurring and becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy.

Self-destructive tendencies usually are a result of a mental illness such as depression or bipolar disorder. Those who are diagnosed, receive the care they need and follow through with their own self care can overcome their self-destructive tendencies. Those who remain undiagnosed or do not stay on top of their self care will likely continue to demonstrate self-destructive tendencies. If you care about someone who is clearly shooting themselves in the foot with their self destructive behavior, the best thing you can do for them is encourage them to seek help, and refuse to participate in or aid their behavior. They are likely to need considerable psychological evaluation and help in order to bring their harmful behavior to an end.